'She said she got the job... I told her that's crazy': Woman tells friend her new degree is "useless," friend walks out on their dinner

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Sep 21, 2024 11:00 AM EDT

These two friends aren't going to be on speaking terms for much longer…

It's hard watching your friends make the wrong choices in life. You love them and want the best for them, but they'd rather date some awful dude or stay at a job that they hate. It's always easier to judge someone when you're not in their shoes, but when it's your friend, you have to be cautious with what you say. Otherwise, you risk offending them and losing their trust. If you flip out when they tell you personal news just because you disagree, they're not going to keep inviting you for hangouts. 

Part of being a good friend is being supportive and honest in a kind way. You're supposed to be there for them, not demand they run their life in a way you see fit. This woman has been having an issue with her friend for that exact reason. She can't comprehend why her friend isn't having kids, and why she's instead focused on traveling for her new career. She's confused why her friend thinks that leaving the country would be such a great experience, and even though the friend tried to explain, she just couldn't get through to this woman. Commenters did not hold back while telling the original poster how wrong she was, as you can read all about down below. 

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    AITA for telling my (f26) friend (f26) that her degree is useless if she has to leave the country to find work?
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    I have a high school friend, Diana, whom recently got her Masters degree. She lived in another city and we barely ever saw each other and she was always "too busy" for long phone calls so we only talked briefly every now and then.
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    During the time she spent on her degrees, I managed to get married and start my own family. Diana was visiting her family and we met up for lunch. I asked her about her degree, work prospects, etc. (She did her masters in translation or interpreting or something like
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    that) and she said she got the job but will have to move to Brussels. I told her that's crazy. If she can't find a job locally, then her degree was a waste of time if she has to move to another country. She said it's an amazing job opportunity that she couldn't get anywhere around here
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    (apparently the job is related to EU parliament or whatever, I admit it, I lost her with all the abbreviations she was using). She again said that it's an amazing opportunity and she's excited. I asked her about the pay and she told me. I said that my
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    husband earns that without a degree so I was right about the Easter of time and money, and she said it's starting salary and it'll grow because the first year I saw pretty much training and being in a junior position. I again said that she could've gotten a similar job here and wouldn't
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    have wasted 6 years Andy instead could've already work Andy start a family. And here's where she was she said that if she was to be as unhappy as I was, she didn't want a family's. She threw in my face. that apparently I'm always complaining about my husband
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    but I'm criticising her, he's the best husband in the world. I told her she's ridiculous and mean and she called me an paid and left the restaurant. I to,d my friends about this and they're split in who's the here so tell me, Aita for telling her the truth?
    via u/Ambitious_Ad_5389
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    EAT-MY-NEIGHBOR Thank she's leaving the country to get away from your jealous . YTA
    via u/EAT-MY-NEIGHBOR
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    sp... YTA! You're so clearly bitter and jealous of your friend's success and it's gross. She's proud of her accomplishments and excited about this great opportunity (as she should be!) and you took every opportunity to tear her down.
    via u/sparklingsour
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    Getting married and starting a family isn't everyone's end game and if it is hers, she has plenty of time to do that AND flourish in her career - she's 26. You're a mean person and a bad friend. Do better.
    via u/sparklingsour
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    GlitterSparkleDev... During the time she spent on her degrees, I managed to get married and start my own family. Ah, another "I became a parent and judge my non parent friends to make myself feel better" post. YTA
    via u/GlitterSparkleDevine
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    [deleted] YTA. Moving to another country is an exciting opportunity. Why are you raining on her parade? Neither of your life choices are bad ones. She clapped back at you because you were such an to her. You are not a very good friend. You don't need to understand or even like her life choices in order for them to be valid.
    via u/[deleted]
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    Daskesmoelf_8 YTA calling it "useless" is the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard. To work in Brussels as a translator is quite an adventure, and if you choose to get a masters degree in translation, you
    via u/Daskesmoelf_8
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    I well do it to travel the world. Also, you cant even compare anything youve done to her, youre using your husband as a point to why her job ????
    via u/Daskesmoelf_8
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    SamScoopCooper She is moving to Brussels. That's in Belgium. Moving to Belgium for many people is NOT a negative thing or a waste of a degree. It is seen as a very good thing.
    via u/SamScoopCooper
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    Especially since she's working for the EU directly. Sure you can make the same amount as a bricklayer - but she's going to be fulfilled while you remain jealous and without the best French fries in the world at your finger tips So yeah, YTA
    via u/SamScoopCooper

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